When Bellini wrote The Capulets and the Montagues in 1830, trouser roles were on their way out. Romeo was the last major role of this kind in Italian opera.To see Joyce DiDonato play Romeo in San Francisco Opera's mesmerizing current production of the work though, is to yearn for more of these cross-dressed parts in twentieth and twenty-first century operas.Despite the fact that most of the opera sounds li…